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Are You A Seeker?

May 21, 2012 by Monte Farber

Seeking is a ribbon-like path that leads us further and further away from home until we get closer and closer to arriving at our true selves.

These Cupids have realized the time has come to leave the safety and security of familiar surroundings.  Like caterpillars in their cocoons, these winged cherubs have been developing the strength and courage they need for the next stage in their lives.  Now they know they must learn how to fly and they have thrown themselves into it with unbridled joy and abandon. The baby birds in the border of this card are using their fledgling flying skills to knit together ribbons and branches.  This is symbolic of the way humans have learned many basic skills by traveling the earth and seas watching nature adapt to different places.  The birds are even showing their departing friends what it means to tie the knot, something every budding Cupid should know.

Life’s search to experience the full potential of its being ties nature and humans together in complimentary roles as evolution knowing itself.

Words © Monte Farber, Artwork © Amy Zerner)

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Storytelling and the Art of Understanding

May 14, 2012 by Monte Farber

In order to bring love into your life or to improve any existing relationship, it is essential that the people you want to be closer to understand key events in your life that have helped shaped you into the person you are today.  By turning your attention to your own life’s story, you will gain insight into what you hold dear.  By telling your story to those you care about, you will also discover how well you listen.

The art of storytelling is, after all, useless without the art of listening.  I remember in the beginning of my relationship with Amy, I would often cut her off mid-sentence because I was so excited to share something with her.  Fortunately, she was patient with me and would gently (and sometimes not so gently!) tell me to listen without interrupting when she was speaking.

I’ve also learned that it’s very important to really listen and not just appear to do so as you think about what you are going to say next!  Whether you are interacting with someone you just met or talking to your mate of twenty years, there are few things that are as attractive as a person who is interested in what you are saying.  Interest leads to sharing and sharing leads to caring.

If we are not interested in what someone has to say, then it is probably not a strong friendship.  When we believe that we aren’t being heard this can lead to misunderstandings and feelings of not being appreciated for who we really are.  Here is an affirmation to help keep you mindful of how you communicate:

“I have the right to speak and be taken seriously because I am respectful and attentive when others speak.”

In storytelling, it is crucial to be aware of your audience.  As you share your life experiences with someone who is important to you,  remember to ask him or her questions about his or her life with a mind toward finding similar experiences.  When storytelling leads to mutual examination and personal exploration, it creates a close bond of understanding that deepens love and begins the work of enchantment.

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Habits That Heal

May 3, 2012 by Monte Farber

Our habits seem to operate the way automatic pilots control airplanes. This is the reason so many people are not even aware of their habits as habits and believe that the way they act is just the way they are or is just human nature. Unfortunately for all of us, both the people content to operate on automatic pilot and a surprising amount of those who have become aware of their habits also believe that changing a person’s habits is unnatural, unnecessary, or difficult to the point of being impossible. These are the people who do not make any effort to deal with their bad habits and we all pay the consequences of their inaction, though not as dearly as they do.

Most people know the basics of what they should be doing to be safe, healthy, successful, and to accomplish their goals, and yet all of us experience going against what we know consciously is best for us. It is as if a separate part of us deep inside our brain operates us the way it wants to, no matter what we have said is the way we want to act. It can be a relatively mild habit or a full-blown compulsion, but either one shows us our unconscious mind at work and it is often the result of the habits that we have absorbed unconsciously or created as self-protective reactions to stressful or unpleasant situations.

If, as children, behaving a certain way made us feel secure, important, or otherwise got us what we wanted, then we probably continued to behave that way and may still do so, even when that kind of behavior is not appropriate or even self-destructive. The child we were still lives within us and we all know how stubborn a child can be when he decides that he wants what he wants and that’s all that matters.

It is important to be as aware of our mental habits as we can be so that we can cultivate the habits that help us and replace the habits that hurt with habits that heal. Otherwise, our habitual behavior is going to sabotage even our best efforts to live well and help those we care about.

As you become a conscious-choice maker, you will find that you experience more and more joy and happiness in your life on a daily basis.  Here is an affirmation for you to use:

“I shine awarenesss and compassion on my past and on my habitual behavior. ”

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What is an Enchanted Relationship?

April 16, 2012 by Monte Farber

The word enchanted itself offers a clue as to how we can actually go about attaining an enchanted relationship. It is derived from the Latin incantare meaning “to sing into.” We all know the powerful effect of inspiring music added to powerful words, which are then sung “into” us by a beautiful voice. We become enchanted, and no wonder! A great deal of thoughtful preparation and artistic skill has gone into making it happen.

Sound the trumpets and let the truth be known throughout the enchanted realm! Living happily ever after is WORK. More  accurately, a true relationship is a work of art requiring consistent, thoughtful preparation, sensitivity and concern, ever-expanding awareness, and respect for one’s partner. Everyone’s relationships are threatened on a regular basis by a squad of dragons with names like Fear, Mistrust, Anger, Jealousy, Selfishness, Inflexibility, Low Self-Esteem, and those evil twin demons, Stupidity and Ignorance. These guys hang around at the gates of our enchanted castle banging to be let  in. And believe us, once they get inside the door, they don’t leave quietly. Pretending they’re not there is worse than useless. They thrive when we try to ignore them. Blaming their existence on somebody else gives them a growth spurt. Dealing with them together, calmly and rationally, is really the only way to keep them outside ourselves and our relationships. And that takes effort. We need to talk to each other, to show our love, to take care of ourselves, each other,  and the relationship-every single day of our lives.

When we are in an enchanted state:

o We have harmonious relationships.

o Our faces are filled with love, light, and laughter.

o We know that we are loved.

o We are loving to children and animals.

o We take care of ourselves physically, mentally, and spiritually.

o Our sleep is deep and relaxed.

o We are well-liked in our communities.

o We have compassion and empathy toward others.

o We live peacefully.

o We enjoy the simple pleasures in life.

o We use our talents to bring happiness to others.

o We share our feelings.

You can read about more of my relationship advice in THE SOULMATE PATH: Find the Love You Want and Strengthen the Love You Have (Weiser Books) http://amzn.to/HWn4ri

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Confessions of a Psychic Tarot Reader

January 18, 2012 by Monte Farber
If you’re so psychic, why don’t you win the lottery?”
Ah, the joy of being a professional psychic. But it’s a fair question even if it’s boring how often I’ve heard it, and it deserves an answer, so here it comes:
I’ve been a psychic tarot reader for the rich and famous for a long time and if there’s one thing that I know it’s that I HAVE won the lottery! Almost all of the rich and famous people I’ve met or even read about are not as happy as you’d think they would be, given that they’re  rich and famous. But it has been my experience that every one of them will agree with me when I say that I’m truly rich because they’re not stupid even if they’re not happy. They know better than anyone that money doesn’t buy true happiness – just a lot of great stuff!
I’m rich because I’ve been waking up every day to the beautiful presence of my wife, the incredibly wise and talented artist, Amy Zerner, since 1975, the biggest win imaginable to me. We’re relatively healthy – another major win! – and our bills are paid from the both of us doing work we love, work that helps other people to enjoy their lives more, a lottery win-win!
If that answer doesn’t answer a querente’s (a great word for a person who asks a question) question to their satisfaction, then I know that I’m dealing with a pitiful example of yet another person who doesn’t know that the goal of living is to find contentment – to not only have what you want but to also want what you have and not live longing for stuff to fill the empty hole where one’s true center should and must be.
I’m not one of those lucky people who were born with their psychic gift fully developed. I became psychic the old fashioned way, literally. I earned my psychic ability by first wanting to throw off the bonds of my painful childhood by seeking knowledge of the nature of personal reality. The trick is that you don’t have to find it, but you do have to seek it. As in so many things, it’s when you set your intention and go on the journey that magic happens and now every day I take part in events that are considered magic by both the people I read for and by me, too.
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Nature Teaches Us About The Cycles Of Life

January 3, 2012 by Monte Farber

The entire world is alive with messages, and it speaks to us, if we will only listen.  Nature reminds us of the abundant beauty present in everyday life.  Make a time and space in your day when and where you won’t be disturbed, so you can listen to it “speak”.  The goal is to be so in harmony with life’s purpose that we will instinctively know which paths to follow from the many that present themselves each day.

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Ritual For Winter Solstice

December 23, 2011 by Monte Farber

Winter Solstice is of course, the longest night and shortest day of the year. Solstice in Latin actually means “The Sun Stands Still.” And so it is — the Sun has stopped retreating but hasn’t yet begun to come back. As I’ve discovered more about the Winter Solstice, I’ve learned that different cultures around the world have honored the Sun and its rebirth.

For instance in India, Pongol is the Hindu Solstice celebration. The Hopi Indians have a ritual where they light fires to energize and entice the safe return of “The Light.” In Japan, Winter Solstice is a time when the Sun Goddess Amaterasu would come out of her cave. Hanukkah actually means “Festival of Lights.” And Christians around the world celebrate Christmas, a time when the Christ child brings back light and a renewal of hope to the world.

Today, many people celebrate the holidays of the season — Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa — without thinking about their Winter Solstice origins. In fact, most of the holiday customs and traditions of December — miraculous events, giving gifts, celebrating with family, decorating with lights, pine cones, Yule logs, even the colors white, red and green — are actually connected to ancient Winter Solstice celebrations.

We like to say a special prayer to “Welcome the Return of Light.” It goes like this:

May darkness give way to Light.

We are awake within the Night.

Turn the Wheel to bring the Light.

With the powers of Fire, Air, Water and Earth,

we welcome the Light.

Strengthen our hope.

Fill us with Peace.

Each flame is a reminder of the Life force.
(c) Amy Zerner & Monte Farber
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The How to Grow a Soul Mate Checklist

December 1, 2011 by Monte Farber

As to meeting a potential Soul Mate, it’s not about where you go—charity functions, bars, the Internet. In other words, it’s not about what you do; it’s about how you do it, how you act, the kind of energy you send out. Where you go to meet people is irrelevant. Taking this advice “magnetizes” the right person to you. Use these checklists to discern whom you do and don’t want. Begin to act accordingly, and see what happens.

1.      Never take each other for granted. Show how lucky you feel to know each other and make sure to spend as much time together as possible. Work together, if you can. Giving little gifts for no special reason will delight your partner and yourself!

2.      Treat each other as equals. You may not have the same background, looks, talents, connections, power, or potential, but you are two halves of the same team. Act like it.

3.      Always compliment each other on good qualities and do it several times a day. If you like the way he/she looks, smells, or makes you feel today, say so.

4.      Have concern for each other’s total welfare, even if it causes you to reverse yourself on some long-cherished notion. Make the other person’s needs as important as your own. Once you have determined that you have found your Soul Mate, you can make his/her needs more important than your own. Don’t worry—you will want to do so.

5.      Be kind. Really listen to each other’s words, and try to understand each other’s position. Do not assume that you know how the other feels. Ask when you want to know something. Never refuse to communicate.

6.      Get to the root of anger, frustration, anxiety, and fear. Learn to tell when you are the problem and when you might be the solution, and try to be the solution more often than the problem.

7.      Always show how happy you are to see each other and smile, even if you are in the middle of hearing the most annoying news. Remember, you are each the most important and powerful thing in each other’s lives. Everything else is secondary.

8.      Forgive each other and mean it. Have the courage to be imperfect. Admit it when you are wrong. Assume that you could be wrong, even when you think you are right; it is not as hard as it sounds.

9.      Always use criticism carefully and constructively. Do not demand change from anyone but yourself. Do not demand change from anyone but yourself. It’s important enough to say twice.

10.    Share and explore your fantasies, dreams for the future, and the dreams you awaken from. Never go to sleep angry. Making up can do wonders for your ability to sleep soundly.

11.    Compromise whenever possible, especially on matters of taste. Eat the same food so your breaths will smell the same. If that is impossible, do not eat foods or wear scents, styles, and colors that offend your Soul Mate.

12.    Keep a positive attitude and a sense of humor, especially about yourself. No matter what happens, if you two are together, relatively healthy, and your bills are paid, laugh at the other stuff.

If your potential partner resists these twelve rules for Soul Mate nurturing, or if she or he does not treat you with the same caring and kindness, you will have to tell her or him. Don’t give up on her/him if she/he makes an effort to change after you gently and tactfully make her/him aware of your concerns.

© Monte Farber, from his book THE SOULMATE PATH
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Tips To Help Overcome Fear

November 18, 2011 by Monte Farber
 Tips to help you overcome fear:

1)    When unwanted thoughts intrude, snap yourself back into the present moment by wearing a rubber band on your wrist and snapping it.

2)    Focus on something that you can touch or taste. That will distract your racing thoughts by putting your mind on something other than you and your fear of getting an attack.

3)    Go through with what you have to do, no matter how you are feeling; never retreat.

4)    Keep trying and you will make progress.  Believe that you have the capacity to change.

5)    Always breathe through it  when you feel anticipatory fear; take a deep breath, hold  it as long as you can, and let it out slowly.

6)    Give comfort to your inner child, not criticism. Treat yourself the way you would treat a frightened child; be like the most gentle and patient parent you can conceive of.

7)    Practice affirmations and positive imaging.

8)    Lighten up and laugh at yourself and, oh yes, love yourself more.


SECRET: Know that you have the power to defeat negative thinking and behavior.  Learn to understand and cope with your greatest enemy: your own fear.  We have learned that living a successful life of quality and meaning does not mean that you will never forget what you know is the face of fear, uncertainty, or rejection.  What is important is how quickly you recover your equilibrium and get on with the business of living. 
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Veneration Of Ancestors As A Tradition

October 31, 2011 by Monte Farber

Buddhism teaches that if you want to know what the course of your past was, you must look at what you are experiencing now. If you want to know your future, you must recognize that what you choose to do in this lifetime, day by day, determines what your future will be. To deal best with our present, we need to be aware of our past, and we need to be aware that the choices we make now will determine our future and that of our offspring. Ancestral veneration is a link that unites the dead and the living members of the family—the past and the present—and can provide a channel of valuable services from our ancestors to ourselves.

The meditative act of communing with the spirit of our ancestors is not ancestor worship but rather ancestor veneration and communication. Respect and admiration for our ancestors aids the feeling of actual contact immensely. Speak and think no ill of the dead; they did their best just as you are doing yours.

Allow your ancestors to remind you of that which is sacred in respect to your life and your relationship to others and the world. Ask your ancestor for his or her wisdom and inspiration when you are having any difficulties in your life. Keep in mind that they may speak to you in quiet, subtle ways, while they protect and guide you. Gently take note of every image and feeling that comes to you during your session for symbols and feelings are the language of the soul.

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